1. 02-07-2009 11:38

Bro Harry good one. I enjoy it a lot. There should not be a wrong reason to get marry if we follow God will for us. I have been with my own woman that God made for me for 24 years and have never turn to look at another woman. She is my everything and all our friend have ask us how we stay so long. I always tell them to follow what the Bible say and you will marry your soul mate for life.

2. 03-07-2009 08:32

Mr. Harry I find your article entertaining however what ever reason anyone get marry is good marriage, it is good in the sight of the Lord, if you and your partner engage in sex before marriage and end up getting marry is good in the sight of the Lord because the mistake is cover. However there will be storms in your union but the both of you should deal with the storm accordingly to go through the storm, if you folks refuse to do so it will lead to the end... of the union, that mean the union was built on the sand not on the rock. it goes to countries and humanbeings if you can not stand the storms you will not survive anything in your life, STORM and WAVES will always come to your life in everything.... forever, the million dollars question is how do you deal with it...

3. 03-07-2009 10:22

I married out of pressure to get married. I regretted it. I got out. Thank goodness. I'm happier without a husband. He probably doesn't feel the same way. But then he was leeching off of me.

4. 03-07-2009 15:38

reply to post#3

There were the problem lies the word is "LEECHING" only prostituted used such a word. they person who used love to get support from others...

5. 03-07-2009 20:04

Stop saying that, Joan

Joan, 
Will you stop saying that? Men are women's best friends in this world. How could you deny yourself the opportunity to reject men completely out of your life?  
 
You might have been mistreated by a man by a man. Sorry to hear that. Be strong and hopeful. These things happen all the time. Don't say because it happened to you before, therefore it will happen again. It may, but don't hope for negatives. Be positive. Find yourself a nice man and get on with life. Also next time around, check to see if you could have been the one who might have had a problem. Try it!

6. 03-07-2009 22:38

Stop saying that, Joan

Noa never ever ever again. I am afraid of all men. I do my best on my own and adopt a little girl from Liberian if I need to have a child with me but I will live my life to the fullest and I will never ever want to see any man around me again. Ciao.

7. 03-07-2009 22:46

Follow the bible

I say it before and I say it again my brothers and sisters endeavor to follow what the Bible say and you will marry your soul mate and be happy.It is the only truth.

8. 04-07-2009 05:12

what I think

Folks, this is what I think. All the shakiness and troubles experienced in marriage are effected by, generally speaking, the reasons people get married. 
 
This whole thing is crazy. Let's take, for example, those who decide to get married because, according to them, they are in love. The first thing is that we may not even know whether "love" and being "in love" are one and the same, or they're two completely different things. Various thinkers have different views on it. 
 
From what I have discovered thus far, people almost always, if not always, get married for the wrong reasons. This is the crux of the problem, in my view. 
 
So, the underlying question, for me, should be: What should be the genuine reasons for deciding to marry? 
 
I say this because I suppose there's a difference between why people get married and why people should get married.  
 
Isn't something in this to think about, folks?

9. 04-07-2009 07:45

what I think

MR PYH HAVE YOU MARRY.IS THERE A RIGHT REASON.THERE IS NO RIGHT REASONE WHICH MAKE ANYONE MAD TO MARRY.YOU YOURSELF HAVE YOU MARRY.NO.

10. 04-07-2009 08:18

to LIB

I like your post -- #9.

11. 04-07-2009 09:39

to LIB

you boi wuma biz too hard

12. 04-07-2009 10:10

Joan, never say never, please

Joan, 
Do you remember the saying "never belongs to God"? How could you say "never, ever" will you be bothered with a man, Joan? Are you outrightly rejecting your brothers and uncles who are innocent bystanders? Your brothers, uncles and male cousins who will never get marry to you are men. They are probably in sympathy with you. So think about this....how could you possibly reject all men out of your life? 
 
I know that you're hurt. The writer of the above article, Mr. Harris, sounds very much like a God-fearing man. That's how we should be. He threw this this article at us so that we could have a marvelous discussion. In the process, our experiences can be shared and of course we can find rooms in our hearts to connect. 
 
I see bitterness in you. Obviously you're upset because of an evil that was perpetrated on you. That's not good. There're some people, because of their evil, are incapable of distiguishing between good and bad. There're some who really, really enjoy inflicting pain on others. But, there're some men you could listen to. Your church pastor who (most likely is a male) is a place to start. Let that stuff out, Joan. Do not allow the evil of others, especially some men, dictate your life. Carrying such bitterness is like a person who carries extra pounds of weight that's not needed. You're so bitter that you do not want to adopt a male child. Come on, Joan! Stop it! Hopefully when you pass on, you're going to Heaven. Do you know who's the King will be? Jesus Christ, of course. So what will you do? Be miserable in Heaven because Mary and Elizabeth, mothers of Jesus and John respectively are not going to lead? 
 
The next thing that you should do is to visit your church or mosque. I don't know much about a mosque, it would be premature to insist that you go there. However, when you go to a church, make sure to ask God to forgive you and heal your heart. It sounds crazy, but, that's the right thing to do. Best of all, it works!

13. 04-07-2009 16:50

Cruel World

Ladies and Gentlemen, only one person I enjoy on this topic, that individual is JOAN, she said she got married out of pressure what that pressure is no body knows but that pressure may have help her cross the bridge over trouble waters or else she would've not done it. 
 
Secondly, Joan was talking about Leaching maybe from her marriage but the question is how much the husband put in the relationship is it 70% and she may put in 30% which she is whining about? to every relationship every one have to invest in it, or else butt out of it. 
 
Thirdly, JOAN said she is going to adopt a girl child it is not cheap, plus it is some else child however JOAN is fully willing to invest in that but she refuse to invest in her self, that is her relationship as COUPLE. 
 
Fourth, I myself experience something strange from one of my female friends, she marry a fellow from back home the both of them had three beautiful children however she was always engage in spending money on her brothers and sisters to get by for this reason she normally have financial problems which made her to not invest in her relationship that is to keep it up as a unit, due to this problem she and her husband separated, before their separation she normally whine to me about the fellow attitude therefore I decided to give the guy a called and I personally asked him a question about he and his wife relationship he told me this is American the both partners have to contributes to the relationship up keeping but my wife refuse to do so however I did not say a word to him because I knew her problem which is helping her brothers and sisters, ONE day I asked her how are your brothers and sisters doing since you've help them to get on their feet? she reply to my question sometimes in life one have to do things without expecting reward however all of brothers and sisters are doing well but they don't help me with nothing in any shape or form, I just kept silence, NOW this lady is without husband and living all alone meanwhile her brothers and sisters are happily married.

14. 04-07-2009 17:30

Follow the bible

Brothers and sisters let us follow the Bible and there will be no problem in our home.The Bible have told us in Matthew 19 that fornication will lead to automatic divorce and when you have marry 1 Timothy 5 had told us men that we must provide for our wife and family or we are infidel.I never put eye on my woman money as that lead to problem. 
Brothers we have to follow the bible as God teaching will help us.When you follow God word you will be having happy married life. 
Sister Joan you should open Bible and read Hebrews 12:14-15.The bible is our guide.

15. 04-07-2009 17:42

reply to post#13

brother Nagba this is called kind heart give nanny goat short tail back home.

16. 04-07-2009 17:48

reply to post#13

nagba wha kinda women yau can be dealin wit so

17. 04-07-2009 18:08

reply to post#13

Nagba you don't know shyt 'bout me and you don't need to know shyt 'bout me. A man screwed my life up and I'm replying to Mr Paul Yeenie Harry article telling him what I been through in marriage which made my marriage not worth being call a marriage. I don't need you to judge me for being rush into married because I was pressured. 
 
This man has ruined my name and girls who don't know shyt 'bout me be giving me bad looks all over town because of he been running with them on the side. I dont need to explain shyt to you. 
 
Bro Dweh, F. S. Hney and Nao thank you folks for telling me 'bout healing and getting over this shitty experience but this takes years to over come this. Thanks anyways for the love. Ciao.

18. 04-07-2009 19:26

You'll Be Okay, Joan

Joan, 
By all means, you'll be okay! I agree it takes time. The healing process is not instantaneous. But, you have to take the first step. Give up all the bitterness. Don't leave a slice of it in you. Give it up! Secondly, ask God to forgive you. Try it. It's very hard, but it can be done. 
 
Result: 
No crime goes unpunished. None whatsover. Even if it takes 100 years.  
 
Joan, I have been burned bitterly. The best way I could feel better was to let it go. It worked for me. It should work for you as well.

19. 04-07-2009 19:38

CRUEL WORLD

JOAN calm down what are you talking about? in PHYSICS there is cost and effect, honey we can't start hearing from the middle of things we must get in the button of it, did your husband tired you up to agree to marriage? I don't understand the word force into marriage because you have the right to agree or disagree therefore JOAN let stop the kid play by insulting others or else I will pull out of this ugly show off conservation and leave it with you and your best faithful friend HARRY. furthermore I see why you are no longer married you said this man ruin your name? what name you have that worth a million to be destroy? this is why you're not married you've too many ears, and you're too rude to be a wife. ONLY guy from Poland will married you.  
 
calm down my sister.

20. 04-07-2009 19:39

Confused

I am confused. I don't know which of the Dwehs we're dealing with? Brother Dweh, are you the same Dweh who used to fight Somah's battles?

21. 04-07-2009 20:03

Confused

Math is like love ... 
 
Math is like love; a simple idea, but it can get complicated.  
 
 
plus....

22. 04-07-2009 20:38

How did you do it

F. S. Hney how you know you when over the bitterness? I been divorced for 1 year how long did it take you to get over it. 
 
Nagba once again you dont know shyt about me. Get off my toe. I don't know Mr Paul Yeenie Harry except from reading his article which my friend sent me and is good for my reflection. I ain't look'n for no man and don't need no shyt.

23. 04-07-2009 20:39

My Point

As I mentioned in an earlier post, from what I have discovered thus far, people almost always, if not always, get married for the wrong reasons. This is the crux of the problem, in my view.  
 
I say this because I suppose there's a difference between "why people get married" and "why people should get married."  
 
I'm sure there's something in this to think about.

24. 04-07-2009 20:58

My Point

If you love something, set it free. 
 
If it comes back, it was and always will be yours. 
 
If it never returns, it was never yours to begin with. 
 
If it just sits in your living room and messes up your stuff, eats your food, uses your telephone, takes your money and never behaves as if you actually set it free in the first place -- you either married it or gave birth to it!

25. 04-07-2009 20:59

My Point

Braka by the grace of God I have not fight with any of my brothers.I want to live peaceful with all my brothers and sisters.

26. 04-07-2009 21:12

My Point

I did you say cause and effect in physic? Well I am out of this forum for a little while although I'M just another skyt for JOAN. 
 
reply to post#24, the answer is, it is your property JOAN.. good bye..

27. 04-07-2009 21:30

My Point

you boi wuma bizz na easy my lungs 
 
joanna u sure u na want man i like you

28. 04-07-2009 22:08

My Point

Joan, 
My point is very simple. But, inspite of its simplicity, it's tough. However, it can be done. You sound like a very strong woman. Keep it up. You've done well to reach this far. You've managed to get this far because God has helped you. He will see you through. There's no need turning back. 
 
I don't drink or smoke. Some of my friends urged me to drink a bottle of wine before going to be. I told them to get off my back. They thought I was crazy, but I kept my word. I am very independent! If you drink at night before going to bed, the problem goes away temporarily. The next day, the problems re-appear. What's the need? Otherwise you'll end up being an alcoholic! 
 
So what needs to be done? 
Pray sincerely. Read your Bible at night before going to bed that is if you have a day job. If you can, go to a non-Liberian church. Some Liberian churches are good and some aren't too good. I am speaking from experience. Some Liberians at a Liberian church will give you the impression that they're listening to you. No, they want to chew you up behind your back. Avoid talking to a lot of them while you're recuperating. Frankly, no one needs to hear your problems except God. 
 
This is the hardest part: 
Forgive your divorced husband. Pray for him. Sue him in the Lord's court. Ask God to judge the two of you. 
 
Lastly, don't let Nagba get on your nerves. If you allow him, he'll play the devil's advocate role to mess with your last nerve. Without blasting, ignore him. Jump over his responses and pretend you didn't see what he wrote. 
For relaxation, you can do a few things to alleviate tension. If you're close by to an exercise club, go there and get on the thread mill. It's a tension reducer. If your neighborhood is pretty safe, go out for a walk. 
 
 
You will be okay! Be blessed.

29. 04-07-2009 22:36

My point

Brother Dweh, 
If you've had no verbal fights with Liberians on this forum, you're a different Dweh. In an of itself, your presence is appreciated. 
 
There is a Dweh who was critical of people who opposed his mentor, professor Somah. Furthermore, that particular Dweh that I am referencing became uneasy once he heard the name of God.  
 
The transition from Dweh to brother Dweh is analogous to the Saul-Paul conversion story. I thought we were witnessing a Forum conversion. Obviously, there are two different Dwehs. That's good!

30. 05-07-2009 07:28

My point

F. S. Hney thanks for all that love brother. It is true that I shouldnt go around Liberian Churches theres too many gossips. When I went to one the last time the pastor told me I wasnt going to go to heaven because I got screwed in marriage. I also got so many look downs from the women I felt like I had killed someone or sumthing. Felt like a bad person for nothing I did wrong. 
 
I will startout at the threadmill tomorrow and about praying for him forgive me but that will take a while brother. Ciao.

31. 05-07-2009 10:25

Ciao, Joan

Ciao, Joan, 
I have to be firm with you. You're on the right track. Keep hanging in there. Be hopeful. Don't even worry about how long it'll take. You will be great! God works in mysterious ways.  
 
Yes, stay away from "some" Liberians. Not all of them are bad, however, it's hard to know the good ones. Instead of doing their jobs, maintaining their families or looking out for their loved ones at home, some Liberians seek to break families apart, or covet their neighbors' wives , husbands or lovers! Don't keep your speech, but keep you most important issues to yourself. 
 
There's light at the end of the tunnel for you. Sooner or later, you'll see how your life changes. Trust God. He works! 
 
Good Day.

32. 05-07-2009 13:24

A different Dweh

Indeed brother Dweh, Braka is right. You're a different Dweh. I know of a Dweh on this Forum who hates the name of God. It is his right to do whatever he pleases.  
 
When I saw post numbers 7 & 14, I became perplexed. I wasn't sure whether I was breathing. But then, you made it explicit that you've had no fights with your brothers on this Forum. It proves that you're indeed a different Dweh. That's good. Welcome to the Forum. You'll enjoy it greatly.

33. 05-07-2009 14:52

A different Dweh

Dear brothers sorry that I cause confusion to you all and I can change to my first name to make the different between the Dweh that claim to fight with Christian.I'm a believer in Jesus Christ and have always been believing since 1978.I know some of you were not born by that time but I am no longer a young man and try to be peaceful with all. 
Bro Hney I want to also add by saying God will bless you for the Godly conselling you provide to the sister.We must all encorage our brothers and sisters in time of problem.

34. 05-07-2009 16:09

A different Dweh

I think Joan should drop that zero and get herself a hero, i for one is married to a Nigeria guy who pay all the bills and i have all the fun many liberian guys on pay cheques meanwhile the Nigerian guys are doing bent- bent business and are making money, some Liberian girls are married to Nigerians in Canada and the U.S. i agree with Paul people sometimes marry for the wrong reason, some of these Nigerian guys married Liberian girls for papers and the girls take from them money in return there is no love at all, this is wrong in the sight of God.

35. 05-07-2009 16:50

Thanks brother Dweh

Brother Dweh, 
We're our brothers' keepers! Some may not take this seriously, but I do. If I am in trouble (hopefully not) I hope that Joan and others will step in to make the difference. Joan is a person who listens. Because of that, she'll be great. It's just a matter of time. 
 
Oh brother Dweh, I was born before 1978. During that year, I was eating hamburgers and whoppers in Chicago, Illinois. Yet, I couldn't get fact. No more beef though. Oh no. My diet consists of chicken, turkey, shrimp, fish and crabs sometimes.  
 
Take care of yourself!

36. 05-07-2009 17:23

Thanks brother Dweh

rebecca every body know whe kinna bone dey can swala

37. 05-07-2009 22:00

Thanks brother Dweh

Yes right, Rebecca here is a site for your husband...Nigeria-The 419 coalition website..http://home.rica.net/alphae/419coal/ 
 
 
http://www.crimes-of-persuasion.com/Crimes/Business/nigerian.htm

38. 06-07-2009 09:37

Thanks brother Dweh

I WILL ASK MY QUESTION AGAIN MR PYH HAVE YOU MARRY?I HEARD YOU ARE A PRIEST WHAT MAKE YOU EXPERT ON MARRIAGE?

39. 06-07-2009 18:47

Thanks brother Dweh

Bro Hney you were living the good life in 1978 at that time I was at that time I was back home an 30 year old just coming to hear the word of God.Well we enjoy our country until by the grace of God some of us end up in Ghana and Nigeria as a result of war.I myself have age since I have been in this country and can not eat beaf or chicken as my young days have gone and the body getting weak. 
Bro Nagba some of our african brothers and sister help us in time of war as I live in Nigeria, Ivory Coast and Ghana before here.Its not all that do crime.I know some good men of God in that country.God bless us all brothers.

40. 06-07-2009 18:47

Thanks brother Dweh

Rebbecca watch your step for the unknown from police questioning... you might vomit that money back.  
 
plus, them guys always go back home to their own women, I've heard many Liberian girls cry for been fool, they give you and take back three times of that amount. ooooooooooohhhh, now you see it and NOW you don't see it.

41. 06-07-2009 22:45

Thanks brother Dweh

You keep one eye open when you sleep as Nigerian like black majic and will use other country woman to make money.

42. 07-07-2009 20:10

Thanks brother Dweh

43. 07-07-2009 23:24

Thanks brother Dweh

One thing I always notice is that when ever you cross a border just look above your head or look around you'll discover a cloth flying above, this indicate that you're on an unfamiliar ground that is the FLAG is different from your home FLAG this symbol means different turf. 
 
 
Plus, there is always some truth to every rumor....

44. 08-07-2009 10:59

Cruel World

I concur, this is why people who travel from their country to another country or meet other people from other countries normally look like "J.J.C" due to culture shock, because you don't understand how they operated.

45. 08-07-2009 17:06

Joan,

Joan, the man treated you the way he did because he was not meant for you. You were in a hurry so you did not hear my voice from the wilderness when I calling and warning you against him. 
 
I have been in the wilderness all these years trying to reserve myself for you.  
 
Now I have found you.  
 
Note: This is not KMS speaking rather your appointed man is speaking trough him.  
 
However, this time around please don't perceive "leech" in the marriage.

46. 08-07-2009 18:15

Joan,

kms you looking for wuma MEHN. you all too funny my lungs  
 
i date a wuma in new jersey tha wuma almost kill me tha was god that save me

47. 08-07-2009 19:57

She's been gone

KMS, 
Joan's gone. It's been a few days since her departure.  
 
Why are you bothering the woman, KMS? Ketehkpu's got a point. Are you trying to entice the lady to come back and deal with you? I don't think so, KMS. You'll be better off looking elsewhere. 
 
Keep trying, pal. Your soft voice is in the wilderness warning you to look elsewhere. So long, KMS.

48. 08-07-2009 21:38

Ketehkpu

Ketehkpu, man can't pick woman from the tree. This lecture of Paul is called onbline compatibility by chance. 
 
What joan did is called seeking perfect match, according to method of compatibility and pricinple of good marriage.  
 
I wont mind leaving my email address here if I am intuced to do so.  
 
Dry face eat the best!

49. 08-07-2009 21:56

Rebecca Togba

Rebecca Togba, I was late for your post 34. I heard you lud and clear but the day septic bursts don't come home crying because I will whip your butt back to the bitter honey moon

50. 08-07-2009 23:20

Rebecca Togba

KMS, where is that teenage girl you told me about in Monrovia?